Tuesday, August 26, 2008

I don't understand how or even why...

people can be so mean. I don't get how adults can treat innocent children badly with no remorse. "So, your kids are crying. Oh well, I am going do what I am going do. It doesn't matter if they have done nothing wrong, I don't want your kids to come around my family. You cannot do or say nothing to change my mind." As I have gone through many challenges in my life, I have come to realize fighting and selfishness does not solve any problems. The only way a problem can be solved is through fasting, prayer and a spirit of love. As a mother, my most precious possessions are my children. I strive to rear them in love and righteousness. I pray every morning for the ability to make right choices as a parent, to have the patience, to keep them from harm. I even find myself praying several times throughout the day for extra strength. I thank the Lord each night for His guidance and protection of our precious family. Yet, in situations like this I do not know what to do. I have been praying, I have been patient, I have tried my best to do what is right yet no answers seem quite right. I hope to be able to go to the temple today to feel the spirit and sense the peace the temple brings.

Being in beautiful Pinetop/Lakeside has been difficult for me. I have felt isolated from dear friends and family that could give me good advice and help me through this situation. My children have needed their close friends to buffer them and give them strength but we are still new in this town and friendships are just developing.

I need strength, I need guidance and I need the support from you all. I hope that the individuals that have caused this heart wrenching experience in our little family's life does not read this posting -- I am sure that it will cause more drama and pain yet I need the strength of women of faith and friendship to help me through this one. Love you guys.

7 comments:

Hilary said...

Oh, Jen... We wish you were here again. I'm sorry that you're struggling with stuff like that. It's hard no matter what the story. We love you and think your family is great. Your kids are more loving than most and just hold tight to the knowledge that you are doing all that you can. We love you!!!

Gary, Stacie, and Kids said...

Jen you are an awesome mom. It sounds like you are doing all of the right things for your family. I don't know the full story, but I do know there are times when all you can do is what you know is right. Hang in there.

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melissa said...

Jen How awful to read this posting something like that happened in my family there was a falling out between my dad and his brothers they didn't talk to each other for 10 years . Don't let that happen in your family it took me getting cancer for them to speak again when my dad told my uncle the first words were is there anything i can do for you it was like the brick wall instantly fell down hope it works out for you

NatalieHemingway said...

Jen, you are the BEST mom!! And your kids are just so sweet. Obviously, someone doesn't know you well enough to understand your family if they can make remarks like that. Absolutely lean on Heavenly Father and know that your true friends love you and your family. I'm so sorry we're not close enough (geographically) to put the beat down on that meanie :) !! Ok, so that's probably a bit rash, but remember that you are a strong woman and can stand up for your kids. Sometimes you just need to politely (or inpolitely if need be) say "back off!". Let us know how things work out. Hugs and Kisses from afar!!

Courtney said...

Dear Jen..Please call me if you want to! I know the time difference sucks..but I'm always up until at least 11 p.m. Just remember that people who are mean and malicious have major issues with their own self worth..their words should be ignored (which is hard to do when it comes to our children!!) You DON'T want people like this in your life, if you can help it. You don't have to be rude, hopefully you can just stay away! And even if you find it in your heart to forgive (in your own time!) it also doesn't mean you have to be their friend either!! Lv You!! Praying for you..

Tulip Girl said...

praying for you my dear. ((hugs))